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What preparation would you make if you were informed that there was a seventy percent chance of a tornado hitting the area you live in within hours? Most of us would anchor down things and make sure our loved ones and friends were aware and somewhat prepared with water and food and a place of shelter to meet and stay until things were safe.

Like preparing for a storm, being somewhat flexible and expecting the unexpected can sometimes be beneficial within reason. I’m not saying that we should go through each day with a negative attitude expecting our plans to be disrupted. I’m just saying that life can be unpredictable and expecting each day to evolve exactly as planned is pretty unlikely and might be setting you up for dissapointment.

This is a challenge for me! I am definitely a planner. I generally look at my calendar sunday evenings and see what lies ahead for the week. Scheduling too much for one day is a big mistake I have made alot… that often leaves me feeling defeated at the end of the day.

I have learned a few things that have helped me find more joy each day and be better prepared when something unexpected happens. Nourishing my soul with prayer and scripture study seems to help me have more patience with those unexpected things that arise. I have decided that taking at least an hour each day doing something I enjoy is beneficial not only to me but to those I come in contact with. I know that taking care of myself physically with exercise and diet is also beneficial. I am learning to be more flexible when I plan things and sometimes I even say no when I feel like I can’t take on more. Overextending yourself can have great negative effects.

Covid has certainly been one of those unexpected storms that has disrupted everyone’s lives to some degree. Who knows what the future holds. How are you handling each day? Are there things you can change to reduce stress in your life? I know that trusting in God means no matter what lies ahead we will be okay.

Look For Something Positive in Each Day!

by Tanya Christiansen. Comments welcome on Facebook or at ctr75@comcast.net

Above on the left is a picture of my daughter Karen who passed away at 3 days old from a strep infection. On the right is her identical twin sister Kaydee who misses her twin sister everyday. A passing of a loved one brings with it a deep reverence for life. Most of us don’t want to be separated from those we love….but death is part of life.

Just last evening my daughter Kaydee witnessed a tragic accident while waiting to make a turn, a fast moving car hit a man and a child that were trying to cross the road. Our lives are fragile and unpredictable and can change in just a matter of seconds.

The wonderful part of life is that it is Eternal! Death opens the door to the next step of our Father in Heavens plan. While we mourn on this side of the veil others are rejoicing and embracing loved ones as they enter the spirit world. Likewise we rejoice when little ones comes to earth. Just this evening I became a Great Grandmother for the first time. These sweet new parents sacrificed greatly to bring their son into this world. And the cycle continues until all of Gods children have gained a mortal body and returned to wait for their glorious resurrection.

Eternal life is made possible for all mankind because of the Atonement and Resurrection of Jesus Christ who lives today. I know these things to be true. I long to be with my husband, children and many other loved ones who have passed on but I have peace in knowing that I will see them again when my turn on earth is complete.

Do you feel a deep reverence for Life?

Life often presents obstacles that we need to overcome in order to have peace and the strength to move forward. We may feel weak and at times may find it almost impossible to put one foot in front of the other. These obstacles might feel like climbing a steep mountain and experiencing that feeling that we might never reach the top, yet we believe that the top is where relief and peace are. Of course the top will have a magnificent and breathtaking view and great rewards beyond our imagination….but….It is possible to have peace along the way!

I read an article this past week that talked about our future being determined far less by our starting point and much more by our slope. The power and strength to overcome and keep climbing is a simple formula containing only two words…. Jesus Christ. Each of us have divine potential no matter where we start or where we have been. The important part is our slope.

I am climbing but I am not alone. I testify that Jesus Christ is the answer to overcoming anything difficult. He is kind, loving, patient, and understanding. He is the answer to finding peace during challenging times. He is there to catch you if you fall. He can relieve your thirst. He can strengthen your legs to hold you up. He can warn you of danger and help you stay on the right path. He can even carry you if you need a rest. And one day you will make it to the glorious top!!!

I don’t really like looking back at where I have been. It does me no good to go there, but I do like looking at where I am and where I desire to be. I am not much of a hiker, but I have faith in Jesus Christ and I know He will help me make it to the top. He will help you too!

Are You On An Upward Slope?

by Tanya Christiansen

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I love this photo that perfectly depicts the characteristic of kindness. Why is it that little children are so quick to be kind? Quick to Love and quick to Forgive. For adults it isn’t always as easy, yet acts of kindness are surely what we all need. There is much to be learned from observing little children.

There is a primary song that teaches this principle perfectly:

“I want to be kind to everyone for that is right you see, so I say to myself remember this, kindness begins with me.“

What a simple yet great concept that short little song teaches! If you want others to be kind to you, be kind to others first. Just be kind always and in every situation. Of course that will require some strength and self control, especially when you are being treated rudely. But can you imagine what your self restraint could speak to others if you always act kind no matter what.

Kindness can be shown both in our actions and through the words we speak. Words are surprisingly very powerful both to build up and to tear down. Of course there will always be those times when we wish we hadn’t said something. Learning to take the time to choose our words carefully can make a big difference and possibly prevent someone from feeling hurt. A simple gesture such as a smile, hug or touching someone’s arm can say I care about you. I’m sure we can all agree that this world needs more Kindness.

So let a car go in front of you. Smile at someone who looks sad. Hold a door open for the elderly. Help a new neighbor who is moving in. Visit someone who is ill. You’ll be glad you did!

Follow the example of Christ and be Kind!

When a vessel loses power in a storm, a metal anchor attached to the ship can be lowered to the seabed to hold the vessel in a particular place. The purpose of the anchor is to keep the ship safe. In Hebrews chapter 6 we learn that an anchor is also a symbol of hope. Hope in Jesus Christ and salvation. Just as a ship sometimes requires the strength of an anchor to keep it from drifting off course or sinking, we often need the example and teachings of Jesus Christ to keep our heads a float in the storms of life. Even when the waves are high and we feel like we will soon be consumed in the depths of the sea, having our anchor firmly in Jesus Christ and His Atonement will see us through to the end of the storm where the sun will rise again!

Life will always bring high waves or challenges. Adversity can come as a great storm or it can deceive us by appearing calm and inviting. That is why our anchor must be firmly planted. Just as we should never go out to sea without life jackets, God has not left us without saving devices to keep us from drowning. Those saving devices begin with His plan of salvation. He gave His Only Begotten Son to be the Savior or anchor for His children. Jesus Christ’s mission is to save. He is indeed the Savior of all mankind. So how do we become anchored in the Lord?

First of all we learn of Him, His characteristic’s, His mission and His teachings. We can know for ourselves of His existence through the power of prayer. Second we can invite Him to be our personal Savior and love and trust him with all our hearts. Third, we can strive to be like Him by loving and serving those around us. Fourth we can keep His commandments and repent when we make mistakes and strive to do better.

As we make Christ the center of our lives He will become a solid and dependable anchor that will give us strength and stability no matter how severe the storm.

Jesus Christ Will Strengthen You During Life’s Storms.

by Tanya Christiansen (comments welcome on Facebook or at ctr75@comcast.net)

With accelerating technology all around us it is common to see everyone using their phones in one way or another. Not just for texting and talking but also for jotting down a note, registering for an appointment, booking a reservation, checking a date on your calendar or even filling out an application…..and the list goes on. Our phones have become a useful device that we can’t seem to live without. I never thought it would become that way for me but I guess it has because….I am constantly looking for my lost phone. It is now a fact that it is generally easier to get through each day by using our phones. But how often do we take the time to call Heaven?

Our Father in Heaven desires for all of His children to call home. He wants to hear of our daily events, and our triumphs and struggles. He listens every time we pray even when we feel like He isn’t listening. But He answers in His own way and His own time according to what is best for us. Hopefully we take a moment or two each day to set our cell phones down and call Heaven.

Our prayers will not always be answered according to our desires but they will always be answered according to what is best for us. I personally prayed for my three children to live….but they died. I prayed for my husband to be cleansed from his cancer infested body but he passed away. At first I was angry but as I look back I see blessings and lessons learned by myself and others that might not have been received and taught any other way.

I am so grateful that when I kneel down to call my Father in Heaven and check in, I am certain He is listening and will answer me when the time is right and according to what is best for me. That is a fact that I can always count on. He loves you with a perfect love and He wants you to call him!!! Prayer is the way we can feel connected to our Father in Heaven and our Savior. I testify that these things are true.

God’s number is 22211…. 2 bended knees, 2 folded arms, 2 closed eyes, 1 bowed head, 1 contrite spirit.

by Tanya Christiansen

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It is my belief that we are all born with the ‘Light of Christ’ and hopefully at some point in our mortal existence we will question where we came from, why we are here on earth and what happens after we die. I like to think of those questions and answers as part of my Spiritual learning. I believe that I have Heavenly Parents who long to have me return home to them safely. They have given me a Savior to be an example and teacher who also died to make my safe return possible. I can learn to hear the promptings of the Holy Ghost or Holy Spirit who helps me discern between right and wrong. Unfortunately there is another referred to as Satan or the Adversary who desires to trap you and me in his webs of destruction.

There are a variety of reasons that one might suffer from Spiritual Entrapment. Some of those are a lack of knowledge and understanding, doubting and questioning those things you once believed were true, making poor choices, and maybe even getting caught up in worldly desires that look appealing but instead are harmful. One might not even recognize that they are trapped or stuck. The light of Christ is there to prompt each individual to choose carefully.

Imagine for a minute someone you deeply love who seems stuck or doesn’t seem to have any direction in their life. Maybe they are angry and can’t forgive or maybe they are making bad choices that are destructive to themselves and others. Because you love them you feel some of their pain and sorrow and likewise I’m certain our Heavenly Parents feel sorrow when we struggle. On the other hand the Adversary rejoices in our suffering. He loves to see us failing and hopes to destroy our chance of returning to our Heavenly Parents who wait to greet us with great blessings.

I lived a lot of years feeling trapped and not really knowing what direction I should take in my life. As a result of not really having a plan and not really knowing how to stand up for myself I fell into a lot of Satan’s webs. Some that were very harmful. So my life has truly been a learning process. But the good part of that is that I eventually learned what felt right and what felt wrong. The desire to feel good, safe and happy grew inside of me and continues to grow each day. I can’t even begin to describe with words the comparison between feeling like you are ruled by Satan and feeling like you are truly loved by your Father in Heaven and His Son and you are on the path to Eternal happiness. I am free from Spiritual Entrapment. I have a plan. I know where I am headed. I choose to follow the plan that my Father has for each of His children. The path you follow is a choice you make. I testify that we can find peace and joy in a world filled with turmoil.

Free yourself from Spiritual Entrapment and Come unto Christ!

Forty six years ago on Jan. 24, 1975 I awoke to have one of the most amazing experiences I would ever have! I married and was sealed to the most wonderful man in this beautiful temple above. However the day started out a little humorous as Ray and I showed up late for our special day! Somehow I had the wrong times. All of our guests were seated waiting for us to arrive. Before we were married we received counsel to keep covenants we had made that day and stay strong in keeping the commandments found in the Holy scriptures. We were promised that if we did that our marriage would not only be enforce in this life but also for Eternity. We could also have Eternal relationships with our children and loved ones. I believe strongly in those Eternal blessings!!! I am grateful for my Savior Jesus Christ who layed his life down then rose from the grave making resurrection possible for all mankind.

I did not know on that special day that I would only be with my husband for 40 years when Cancer would take him home to his Father in Heaven. I miss him everyday but I know that our marriage is Eternal and we will only be apart a short time in comparison to Forever! I also have three children, my parents and grandparents and many ancestors on the other side who await my return. I can get through these lonely days because of the things that took place in that beautiful building above.

Our Father in Heaven offers these Eternal blessings to all. He loves his children with a perfect love. He longs to hear from you and to know your struggles and triumphs. His son made it possible for you to go on living after this life. I know that to be true with every fiber of my being. I can’t imagine only having my husband and loved one’s with me for Time. I know death is NOT the end. Just like birth, death is just a step forward. Our progression is continual.

I leave you with my testimony. I know these things to be true. The world may label me a widow but I know that I am still married. This knowledge brings me great peace and comfort. Tomorrow I celebrate in my heart my 46th wedding anniversary! I leave these valuable truths with you in the name of Jesus Christ amen.

Marriage can last Forever!!!

by Tanya Christiansen

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What do you think of when you read the word ‘Certitude’? Certitude means, perseverance, taking action with clarity, wholeheartedly, fearlessly, acting with confidence and strong belief or conviction. Having a rightful purpose.

We all serve someone, our families, friends, in our communities, in our churches, our work places and some serve in our country. We can even serve ourselves. We all serve in one way or another but do you serve with Certitude? Or are you just going through the motions?

For the first couple of years after my husband passed away I did not serve with Certitude. I was not positive or happy. My life felt over. I continued to serve my family and my church but my heart wasn’t in it. But as time went on and I began to look for opportunities to serve something miraculous happened. My broken heart began to heal and the more I served with the right attitude and with strong conviction to serve wholeheartedly with a purpose the more I wanted to serve. I believe there is power in serving those around us. When we truly desire to give 110 percent we end up gaining far more than we give.

Our Savior Jesus Christ is the best example we have of someone who served with His whole heart and His whole life. He was completely selfless and only thought of others. If parenting is wearing you down, or you have a boss who can’t see how valuable you are or maybe you have a broken friendship to mend…….give 110 percent and see what happens. Serve with love and determination. Give your best all the time everyday and feel the satisfaction and joy that comes from serving with Certitude!

Serving with your WHOLE HEART brings Strength and Healing!!!

by Tanya Christiansen

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The well known story of Little Red Riding Hood came with varied endings to the story, some being tragic and others joyful. All versions of the story were entertaining, but I remember checking out the ending of the story before I read it to my kids and sometimes changing things up a bit depending on their ages. Most stories have lessons to be taught and a moral to the story that can enlighten those listening.

Little Red Riding Hood certainly didn’t plan on crossing paths with the big bad wolf when she was happily skipping through the woods on her way to visit her grandmother. The big bad wolf’s plot was to deceive her and tell Little Red Riding Hood lies in his attempt to benefit himself and end up with a full stomach. If Little Red Riding Hood had been a real person in a real world she would have learned lessons about the dangers of walking through the woods or perhaps her mother would not have allowed her to go alone in the first place. Little Red Riding Hood would have also learned a lot about a world full of deception and lies and how we must always seek after truth in order to be safe and protected.

I have found my life to be very similar to the story of Little Red Riding Hood. I guess you could say that I spent alot of my life lost in the woods and being deceived by Satan himself. The good news is I finally ended up on the path to happiness and found my way out of the dark woods and into a place of glorious light and truth. I did not get here by myself. There were many who encouraged me along the way. The Lord has allowed me difficult trials that I now see as stepping stones that have led me to a knowledge of My Heavenly Fathers plan. This plan contains no deception but only truth. Anyone who seeks to understand and know the plan of happiness can have pure joy even when going through difficult things. My joy is in Jesus Christ who is the Savior of the world.

I started this blog over a year and a half ago to share my story and hopefully help lift others who are struggling. Sharing can bring healing. It can be difficult at times to share things that are personal and even more difficult to share mistakes we have made. But if it can help someone to find joy and peace it is totally worth it in my opinion. Each of you reading this post have your own story to tell. Your experiences and words could help future generations long after you are gone. Listen for those promptings that encourage you to share a part of your life that might help someone.

Remember there are many ‘Big Bad Wolves’ in this world. They are out to devour us and our children and to pull us down to a life of sorrow and destruction. Believing in Christ and following his teachings is our amunition against the evils that exist in the world today.

Don’t Get Lost in the Woods….. the Big Bad Wolf Might Get You!!!

by Tanya Christiansen

I invite you to read my whole story by scrolling back to my other posts. Please feel free to share with others. Comments appreciated here, on Facebook or at ctr75@comcast.net